Q&A: What message did she receive from Pope Benedict?

The speaker at this year’s Endow (Education on the Nature and Dignity of Women) gala Feb. 8 in Denver will be Kathryn Jean Lopez. Lopez serves as editor-at-large of the widely read National Review Online, is a nationally syndicated columnist, frequent radio and TV guest, and director at Catholic Voices USA. In a recent conversation with the Denver Catholic Register, Lopez discussed the feminine genius of women as well as a message Pope Emeritus Benedict passed on to her to share with the world.

Q: How did you become involved with Endow?
A:  I’ve been an admirer from afar. Church teaching and reality is a celebration of women, who, along with men, bring unique, complimentary gifts to the world. The Church sees clearly and Catholics need to know this and teach this and witness to it—demonstrate to the world what makes glorious sense, this great gift from God! Endow helps women with this in a culture of, as the song of last summer put it: “Blurred Lines.”

Q: I understand you will be speaking on a personal “defining moment” at the Endow gala. Without giving it away, what can guests expect from your talk?
A: I can’t give it away (but) I can say this: I simply want to convey thanksgiving and the only thing I have to give: God’s love. We may forget and fight against it, but it’s everything. As the encyclical Pope Benedict and Pope Francis gave us puts it (“Lumen Fidei”): Faith illuminates everything. If I can do anything to help make that a little more palpable, a little more accessible, or just simply be grateful, maybe we’ll have Thanksgiving in February!

Q: Endow studies reach women of all ages, in all stages of life and faith: How do women benefit from education that encourages them to live out their authentic feminine genius?
A: It’s so countercultural. Women equipped with … (Endow’s) practical guides written by loving sisters and mothers make it work in a world where we’re conditioned so often to compete with men, and are expected to adapt to a way of life that wants us to be more like them. Think about the fact that our government now mandates … abortion drugs, contraception and sterilization … under “Preventative Services” in the health care law regulation. Fertility is a disease to be suppressed? It should be treasured as a most creative gift!

Q: Pope Francis has called for a deeper theology of women, a concept long embraced by Endow: What do you think this will look like? Why is this important to the Church?
A: I think we have a lot of it in front of us: Mary, the Mother of God and her “yes”! Jesus told Mary Magdalene to go and tell what she saw! Jesus Christ treasured women. Mothers. Sisters. We have such tremendous saints and good women—martyrs and doctors of the Church. Let’s do a better job of telling their stories, of getting to know them and asking for their intercessory help.

Q: Tell me about the message Pope Emeritus Benedict presented to you in Rome in 2012?
A: At the opening Mass of the Year of Faith—50 years after the opening of the Second Vatican Council—he handed me a message meant for every women throughout the world. That’s what the message itself said. (It) was the message of Paul VI at the closing of the council. It’s powerful stuff … and bottom line, reads: “the hour is coming, in fact has come, when the vocation of woman is being achieved in its fullness, the hour in which woman acquires in the world an influence, an effect and a power never hitherto achieved. That is why, at this moment when the human race is undergoing so deep a transformation, women impregnated with the spirit of the Gospel can do so much to aid mankind in not falling.” Drink that one in. No small task! And no small respect for women there! It goes on: “Women of the entire universe, whether Christian or non-believing, you to whom life is entrusted at this grave moment in history, it is for you to save the peace of the world.” Can we share this with our sisters, uplifting our brothers and fathers and husbands, with the very witness of our lives?

Q: What would you like to add?
A: One of the great privileges of my life is to have a media platform and the opportunity to hear from women, who are so encouraged when they see other women loving God, living in gratitude. I love to tell their stories. We all have a platform in our communities, our civic lives, and, of course, over social media. On Twitter, I’ll tweet a line from the homily. … People tell me a tweet sometimes reminds them to pray, to go to noon Mass. Tweet a window a day from your parish church. Let’s help one another sanctify our days. And yes, share what the Church teaches!


Endow Gala 2014
What: Mass, dinner, talk, award ceremony, and auctions
When: Feb. 8, 4 p.m. Mass, 6:30 p.m. dinner
Where: Hyatt Regency Convention Center, 650 15th St., Denver
Tickets: $200
Register: www.endowgroups.org
Information: Call 720-382-5242

COMING UP: Father and son, deacon and priest: Deacon dads and priest sons share special bond as both serve God’s people

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The bond between a father and son is one of God’s greatest designs; however, when father and son are both called to serve the Church as deacon and priest, that bond takes on a whole new meaning. Just ask these two dads and their sons, all of whom answered the call to serve the people of God at the altar.

Deacon Michael Magee serves at Our Lady of Loreto Parish in Foxfield, while his son Father Matthew Magee has worked as the priest secretary to Archbishop Samuel J. Aquila for the past several years and will soon be moved to a new assignment as parochial vicar at St. Thomas Aquinas Parish in Boulder. Deacon Darrell Nepil serves at Our Lady of Lourdes Parish in Denver, and his son, Father John Nepil, served at several parishes within the archdiocese before his current assignment as a professor at St. John Vianney Theological Seminary.

However different their journeys may have been, all four have something in common; mainly, that far from seeing their vocations as a reward from God, they have received them as an uncommon gift of grace that has blessed their families and individual relationships with each other abundantly, knowing that God acts in different ways to help us all get to Heaven.

Interwoven journeys

Deacon Michael Magee was ordained in May 2009, at the end of Father Matt’s first year of seminary. Little did they know that God would use both of their callings to encourage each other along the journey.

Deacon Michael’s journey began when a man from his parish was ordained a deacon.

“I simply felt like God was calling me to do something more than I was doing at the present time,” he said. “I had been volunteering for a number of different things and was involved in some ministry activities and in the Knights of Columbus. And I thought the idea of being a deacon would be simply another activity for which I could volunteer.”

He didn’t know what it entailed at the time. In fact, he believed it was something a man could simply sign up for. To his surprise, the diaconate was more serious – and it required five years of formation and discernment. Yet he was so drawn to it, that he decided to do it anyway. But as he learned more about the nature of the diaconate during his formation, he became more nervous and unsure about whether God was really calling him to that vocation. 

While his doubts remained all the way up to his ordination, Deacon Michael was faithful to his studies, trusting that God would lead him in the right path. 

And God did — through the calling of his own son to the priesthood.

Deacon Michael didn’t realize that his son Matthew had paid close attention to his father’s faith journey and had found in it a light that gave him courage to discern the priesthood.

Father Matthew Magee (left) and his dad, Deacon Michael Magee (right), were both encouraging to one another as they each pursued their respective vocations. (Photo by Daniel Petty/Denver Catholic)

“Seeing my dad, as a father, growing in his relationship with the Lord was really influential for me on my own desire to follow Christ,” said Father Matt. “Looking at his courage to discern his own vocation and follow God’s plan in his life gave me the strength and courage to be open to the same thing in my life… He played a very important role, whether he knew it or not at the time, and whether I knew it or not at the time.”

On the other hand, Father Matt didn’t know that his dad was in turn encouraged by his own response to God’s calling. 

“As I went through all those doubts, I watched Matthew’s journey in seminary and listened to how he was dealing with that in his life. And, as he just articulated very well, I also saw those same qualities in him,” Deacon Michael said. “Seeing a young man in his 20s willing to consider following God for the rest of his life also gave me the courage to continue on in my own journey, to see it through.”

God’s way of uplifting them in their vocations through each other’s journey is something they are very grateful for. 

This unusual grace impacted Father Matt during his first Mass, when his dad, as deacon, approached him before the Gospel reading and asked for the traditional blessing by calling him “father.”

“It was a really special moment for me. He’s certainly my biological father and raised me. But then there’s something different when we’re at the altar in a clerical capacity — there’s a strange reversal of roles when we’re giving spiritual nourishment to the people — a father asks the new father for the blessing,” he said.

In both of their vocations, Deacon Michael and Father Matt see God’s Providence and the unique plan he has for all of us.

“We all have a vocation, even if it’s something we may not expect,” Deacon Michael concluded. “You may feel anxiety or worry about what it’s going to look like, but trust in God. He will take care of things as he always does.”

A bribe for Heaven

For Deacon Darell and Father John Nepil, the journey was different, but not any less providential.

While he grew up Catholic, Father John wasn’t interested in setting foot on any Church activity during his teenage years. His saving grace was perhaps what many parents have to do to get their teenagers to Church: bribe them.

“His mom and I basically bribed him to go to the Steubenville of the Rockies Conference,” Deacon Darell said with a laugh. “He didn’t want to go, but we’d heard so many good things about it, that we said, ‘We’re going to make this happen, whatever it takes.’”

So the Nepils came up with a creative idea.

“He owed me some money for a uniform that he had needed for a job in the summer. So, I said, ‘Listen, if you go to the Steubenville of the Rockies Conference, I’ll forgive your debt. And he did, he and his brother went. And John especially came back a different boy. He literally was converted with a lightning bolt at that retreat.”

To this day, Father John marks his conversion to Christ from the summer before his senior year in high school when he attended that conference. 

As it happens with stories worth telling, the details of how much money he owed his father have varied over the years, and it’s a matter of debate among them, but Father John remembers it was close to $500.

“That’s subject to each one,” Father John said laughingly. “But what matters is that they offered to forgive my debt if I went to this retreat – it was money well spent.”

Besides this important event, Father John said that his dad influenced him in many ways by the simple fact of who he was as a father.

“My dad’s faith and moral character were a rock for me during some difficult teenage years,” he said. “He’s a great example of a man who was always faithful and lived a really outstanding moral life, but then as he deepened in love with Christ, he decided to give of himself in a more profound service.”

Father John Nepil (left) and Deacon Darrell Nepil (right) both had rather roundabout ways to their respective vocations, but they both say serving God’s people together as brothers in Holy Orders is a great joy. (Photo provided)

Besides his desire to serve and follow God, the seed that would eventually lead Deacon Darell to the diaconate was planted by a coworker, who would also take holy orders: Deacon Joe Donohoe.

“One day he said to me, ‘You should be a deacon.’ And, of course, I laughed at him and said, ‘I don’t have time for that. My life is too busy.’ But it only took him to suggest it for the idea to keep coming back to my head, and God kept nudging me. Eventually I decided I really wanted to do that,” Deacon Darell said.

The ability to share at the altar during the Mass has deepened the natural relationship of father and son and given Deacon Darell and Father John new opportunities to grow closer to God. 

One of the most meaningful times came when Deacon Darell had a massive stroke in 2018. While he was in the hospital, Father John was able to visit and celebrate Mass at his bed and pray the rosary with him every day, as he had come back from Rome and was working on his dissertation.

“It was probably the most privileged and intimate time I’ve ever had with my father,” Father John said. “It was an amazing gift that really changed our relationship.”

“I feel like that’s a huge reason why I healed and why I am here today,” Deacon Darell added.

“It’s a real gift to have my dad as a deacon and a brother. It’s a tremendous honor. It’s one of the great joys of my life.” Father John concluded. “That’s really what has bonded our relationship together: the sheer desire to serve Jesus, especially in holy orders.”