From broken to Beloved: New DVD series helps strengthen marriages

For struggling couples stuck in a world unsupportive of their lifelong commitment, the Augustine Institute has an answer.

In a newly-released 12-episode DVD series called “Beloved—Finding Happiness in Marriage,” staff from the institute worked with couples and experts to uncover the mystery and meaning of marriage—and how to make it last.

“We’re looking at what is really love,” said Edward Sri, content director of the series and professor at the institute. “Many people think love is just a feeling and a few years into your marriage you realize you don’t have those warm fuzzy feelings. … Love is much more than a feeling. It’s a choice. It’s a commitment for the good of the other. We talk about how to live that commitment.”

The breakdown of marriage is a central topic in the Church, especially this year as she prepares for the ordinary synod of bishops in October. The gathering at the Vatican will address topics on marriage and family.

“Oftentimes the Church focuses on marriage prep but the synod says we need to help couples with the ongoing living of marriage,” he said. “You can’t just prepare them, get them to the altar, and then say good luck after that.”

Sri said this DVD series is designed to help couples prepare for marriage and help married couples—whether married one year or 20 years—to enrich their bond. Workbooks tailored for couples or marriage prep leaders guide them through the series divided into two parts. The first part addresses the theology of marriage.

“We show how our individual love story is meant to be caught up in the largest love story of God’s love for us,” Sri explained. “That’s really what the sacrament of marriage is all about.”

Couples may ask fundamental questions about why marriage is needed.

“Deep on the human heart is a desire to love and be loved. We want a lasting love. The only arena setting for this kind of relationship in where I can really be vulnerable like that and give myself to someone and then be received by someone in a total way … is in the lifelong commitment of marriage.”

The second part focuses on the practicalities of marriage. Dozens of couples appear on the video to share their own joys, suffering, trials and triumphs. Insights on communication skills and conflict are given, including the need for virtue to protect the bond of marriage.

“We get into the real messiness of real married life,” said Sri, who’s been married for 15 years. “We talk about the challenge to lay down your life on a day-to-day basis.”

The series is meant to give a model for marriage and witness to the hope couples can have regardless of the trials they may face, he said.

“Beloved” is the next of a series under Symbolon, a DVD series on the basics of knowing and living the Catholic faith. Symbolon is being used for the Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults and faith studies in more than 3,000 parishes and in 12 countries across the world.

The “Beloved” 12-episode DVD set is sold for $149.95 at the institute or online at

“We want to give people hope that no matter what troubles they may face or trials that come, they can have a great marriage. And God can help them,” Sri said.


“Beloved—Finding Happiness in Marriage”

COMING UP: On Fathers and Christian Masculinity

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The Year of St. Joseph points us to Jesus’ adoptive father, Joseph, as the essential model for fathers. Joseph not only manifests genuine masculinity, he also images God’s own fatherhood, as Pope Francis makes clear in his apostolic letter, Patris Corde: “In his relationship to Jesus, Joseph was the earthly shadow of the heavenly Father: he watched over him and protected him, never leaving him to go his own way.” Jesus, though the Son of God, obeyed Joseph, learned from him, and worked with him, acknowledging Joseph as a true expression of God’s own fatherhood.  

God does not just use fatherhood as an image of himself, because he himself is Father, even within his own triune life. Earthly fatherhood comes forth from him and should manifest his life and love. St. Paul speaks of honoring the “Father, from whom all fatherhood in heaven and on earth is named” (Eph 3:15). God wants everyone to be able to see his own fatherly love and called certain men to share in his own paternal gift of bringing forth life and caring for others. Every father is called to be liked Joseph, “an earthly shadow of the heavenly Father” for his own family. 

Our culture, however, often denigrates masculinity, sometimes viewing even its proper expressions as toxic. We too often see maleness in its fallenness — dominating and selfish — rather than showing self-sacrificial service. In fact, later in Ephesians, Paul speaks of the true vocation of the husband and father: “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Eph 5:25). He also speaks of the role of fatherhood: “Do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord” (Eph 6:4). Paul shows us the goal of fatherhood — sacrificing himself for the flourishing of the family by putting the good of his wife and children before his own desires.   

No matter what the contrary voices of our culture say, we need strong men and fathers. God created man and woman in complementarity, and they need each other to thrive, helping the other in relation to their own strengths and weaknesses. Children need the strong presence of a father to discipline and teach, as Paul reminds us. Study after study has shown that fathers have the largest impact on the faith of their children. Christian Smith explains in his sociological study, Young Catholic America, that “the faith of Catholic fathers is powerfully determinative of the future faith of their children (125). The same can be said for general wellbeing and success. When fathers are absent or refuse to exercise their role, a moral and spiritual vacuum appears. A strong majority of felons, for instance, grew up without fathers in the home.  

St. Joseph helps us to understand the strength of Christian fatherhood. First, like any good husband, Joseph listened — not just to his wife but also to God. Woken up frequently by angels, he demonstrated obedience and trust, quickly leaving everything behind to follow God’s instructions and to protect his family. We also know Joseph for his work as a carpenter and builder, content to live simply and to work hard. Importantly, he also taught Jesus how to work, showing that fathers model and teach by drawing their children into their life and work. And we can also learn from Joseph’s humility, serving the Incarnate God and his Mother without even a single recorded word in the Gospels.  

This humility points us to the essence of Christian fatherhood. Although living with two perfect people, Joseph was still called to lead. He quietly and humbly did what was needed for his family and taught his own maker how to share in his work. Fathers do not lead in order to be in charge or to get their own way. They lead because God asks them to care for and protect their families. Fathers and mothers share in the great and beautiful partnership of family life, although fathers cannot simply sit back and let mom take the lead in the spiritual life, as they are often tempted to do. Like Joseph, fathers should act firmly and lovingly to put God and the family before self, obeying God and leading the family in the right direction. They are called to model faith, work, and sacrifice to their children. 

On Father’s Day we can affirm that masculinity and fatherhood are not just good — they are essential to understanding God and his plan for human flourishing. If our culture turns around, it will be because, in large part, Christian men stand up and fight. As Christians, we cannot give in to the culture’s attempt to denigrate masculinity and fatherhood or to pit men and women against each other. We can use this celebration to affirm the essential role that our fathers play, leading their families like St. Joseph.