The Search could make this Lent your most meaningful ever

Lent isn’t just a time to give something up; it’s a time to tap into life’s greatest questions, search for meaning and ultimately, reencounter the Lord. 

As many parishes try to figure out how to make Lent a meaningful time for their parishioners to encounter the beauty and power of the Gospel message in this unique moment in history, the Archdiocese of Denver has partnered with Real Life Catholic and the Augustine Institute to bring The Search to the Archdiocese of Denver faithful, a deep and beautifully filmed series that can help people journey through what could be one of their most meaningful Lenten seasons ever. 

The Search is a seven-part video series produced by the Augustine Institute and hosted by Chris Stefanick that delves into life’s greatest questions: “Why are we here? What is life all about? What happens when we die? Where can we find answers to these questions and these desires?” People of all backgrounds can expect to find plenty to ponder on throughout this meaningful journey with host Chris Stefanick and other experts from the fields of science, medicine, psychology, art and religion.

“What The Search does really well is that it doesn’t assume anything. It addresses the most fundamental questions of the faith that we think people have already understood, but, in reality, they’re questions all of us need to reencounter at different points in our lives,” said Tim Glemkowski, Director of Strategy in the Archbishop’s Office for the Archdiocese of Denver. “These are the questions people are really asking. Sometimes we have a deep understanding of the really intellectual answers, but we may be answering questions that people aren’t asking.” 

Through its personal approach, The Search can have a lot to say to Catholic and non-Catholics alike.  

“We think The Search would certainly do very well for an audience that is looking for the truth and looking for answers, but that hasn’t really landed on the fact that Jesus might have the answers to all the questions of the longings of the human heart,” Glemkowski said. “But in reality, there are also so many Catholics sitting in our pews who really need to reencounter this Gospel message, because many of us haven’t really sat with it to the point that it has overwhelmed us and brought us to that decision to personally entrust our entire life to Jesus.” 

The Archdiocese of Denver is one of seven dioceses collaborating with Real Life Catholic to bring this message to the faithful and others during the season of Lent. As part of the collaboration, each of the seven bishops will join Stefanick individually on his show The Life You Were Made For throughout Lent to talk about a specific topic in The Search and share their own conversion story. Archbishop Samuel J. Aquila will appear on the show during the first week of Lent on Feb. 18. (To tune in to the live show, click here).  

“The Archdiocese of Denver thought this was an important initiative to highlight because, on the one hand, we think the message is critical for the moment…. We’re moving into an age of apostolic mission, where once again, the Church finds herself in a place to propose the Gospel to the culture, instead of presupposing that every individual knows it,” Glemkowski said. “On the other hand, we have an opportunity to really encounter the core Gospel message through a medium that makes sense for right now, given the reality of COVID-19.” 

The Search is available for free for parishes with Formed.org. However, the Augustine Institute has generously provided The Search for free to all Archdiocese of Denver Parishes and their parishioners during this Lent and is also offering participant guides with 25 percent off and free shipping from Catholic.Market. All you need is the promo code ARCHDEN.

The archdiocese is encouraging people to form small groups that meet in person or via Zoom to go through The Search during Lent. It could be an already existing small group, or a new group made up of family or friends. If you would like to journey through this Lent using The Search as your guide, either individually or in a small group, visit archden.org/the-search for more details. 

“All of us need community right now and all of us need to reencounter the Gospel message. I would encourage everyone to visit archden.org/the-search, and to not be afraid to go out into the deep and to reach out to other friends or family members,” Glemkowski concluded. “I think we’re all waiting for someone else to go first, but I think the call for us as Catholics is to be vulnerable enough to go first and say, ‘Hey, I would like to do this with you.’” 

For more information, visit archden.org/the-search. 

COMING UP: Father and son, deacon and priest: Deacon dads and priest sons share special bond as both serve God’s people

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The bond between a father and son is one of God’s greatest designs; however, when father and son are both called to serve the Church as deacon and priest, that bond takes on a whole new meaning. Just ask these two dads and their sons, all of whom answered the call to serve the people of God at the altar.

Deacon Michael Magee serves at Our Lady of Loreto Parish in Foxfield, while his son Father Matthew Magee has worked as the priest secretary to Archbishop Samuel J. Aquila for the past several years and will soon be moved to a new assignment as parochial vicar at St. Thomas Aquinas Parish in Boulder. Deacon Darrell Nepil serves at Our Lady of Lourdes Parish in Denver, and his son, Father John Nepil, served at several parishes within the archdiocese before his current assignment as a professor at St. John Vianney Theological Seminary.

However different their journeys may have been, all four have something in common; mainly, that far from seeing their vocations as a reward from God, they have received them as an uncommon gift of grace that has blessed their families and individual relationships with each other abundantly, knowing that God acts in different ways to help us all get to Heaven.

Interwoven journeys

Deacon Michael Magee was ordained in May 2009, at the end of Father Matt’s first year of seminary. Little did they know that God would use both of their callings to encourage each other along the journey.

Deacon Michael’s journey began when a man from his parish was ordained a deacon.

“I simply felt like God was calling me to do something more than I was doing at the present time,” he said. “I had been volunteering for a number of different things and was involved in some ministry activities and in the Knights of Columbus. And I thought the idea of being a deacon would be simply another activity for which I could volunteer.”

He didn’t know what it entailed at the time. In fact, he believed it was something a man could simply sign up for. To his surprise, the diaconate was more serious – and it required five years of formation and discernment. Yet he was so drawn to it, that he decided to do it anyway. But as he learned more about the nature of the diaconate during his formation, he became more nervous and unsure about whether God was really calling him to that vocation. 

While his doubts remained all the way up to his ordination, Deacon Michael was faithful to his studies, trusting that God would lead him in the right path. 

And God did — through the calling of his own son to the priesthood.

Deacon Michael didn’t realize that his son Matthew had paid close attention to his father’s faith journey and had found in it a light that gave him courage to discern the priesthood.

Father Matthew Magee (left) and his dad, Deacon Michael Magee (right), were both encouraging to one another as they each pursued their respective vocations. (Photo by Daniel Petty/Denver Catholic)

“Seeing my dad, as a father, growing in his relationship with the Lord was really influential for me on my own desire to follow Christ,” said Father Matt. “Looking at his courage to discern his own vocation and follow God’s plan in his life gave me the strength and courage to be open to the same thing in my life… He played a very important role, whether he knew it or not at the time, and whether I knew it or not at the time.”

On the other hand, Father Matt didn’t know that his dad was in turn encouraged by his own response to God’s calling. 

“As I went through all those doubts, I watched Matthew’s journey in seminary and listened to how he was dealing with that in his life. And, as he just articulated very well, I also saw those same qualities in him,” Deacon Michael said. “Seeing a young man in his 20s willing to consider following God for the rest of his life also gave me the courage to continue on in my own journey, to see it through.”

God’s way of uplifting them in their vocations through each other’s journey is something they are very grateful for. 

This unusual grace impacted Father Matt during his first Mass, when his dad, as deacon, approached him before the Gospel reading and asked for the traditional blessing by calling him “father.”

“It was a really special moment for me. He’s certainly my biological father and raised me. But then there’s something different when we’re at the altar in a clerical capacity — there’s a strange reversal of roles when we’re giving spiritual nourishment to the people — a father asks the new father for the blessing,” he said.

In both of their vocations, Deacon Michael and Father Matt see God’s Providence and the unique plan he has for all of us.

“We all have a vocation, even if it’s something we may not expect,” Deacon Michael concluded. “You may feel anxiety or worry about what it’s going to look like, but trust in God. He will take care of things as he always does.”

A bribe for Heaven

For Deacon Darell and Father John Nepil, the journey was different, but not any less providential.

While he grew up Catholic, Father John wasn’t interested in setting foot on any Church activity during his teenage years. His saving grace was perhaps what many parents have to do to get their teenagers to Church: bribe them.

“His mom and I basically bribed him to go to the Steubenville of the Rockies Conference,” Deacon Darell said with a laugh. “He didn’t want to go, but we’d heard so many good things about it, that we said, ‘We’re going to make this happen, whatever it takes.’”

So the Nepils came up with a creative idea.

“He owed me some money for a uniform that he had needed for a job in the summer. So, I said, ‘Listen, if you go to the Steubenville of the Rockies Conference, I’ll forgive your debt. And he did, he and his brother went. And John especially came back a different boy. He literally was converted with a lightning bolt at that retreat.”

To this day, Father John marks his conversion to Christ from the summer before his senior year in high school when he attended that conference. 

As it happens with stories worth telling, the details of how much money he owed his father have varied over the years, and it’s a matter of debate among them, but Father John remembers it was close to $500.

“That’s subject to each one,” Father John said laughingly. “But what matters is that they offered to forgive my debt if I went to this retreat – it was money well spent.”

Besides this important event, Father John said that his dad influenced him in many ways by the simple fact of who he was as a father.

“My dad’s faith and moral character were a rock for me during some difficult teenage years,” he said. “He’s a great example of a man who was always faithful and lived a really outstanding moral life, but then as he deepened in love with Christ, he decided to give of himself in a more profound service.”

Father John Nepil (left) and Deacon Darrell Nepil (right) both had rather roundabout ways to their respective vocations, but they both say serving God’s people together as brothers in Holy Orders is a great joy. (Photo provided)

Besides his desire to serve and follow God, the seed that would eventually lead Deacon Darell to the diaconate was planted by a coworker, who would also take holy orders: Deacon Joe Donohoe.

“One day he said to me, ‘You should be a deacon.’ And, of course, I laughed at him and said, ‘I don’t have time for that. My life is too busy.’ But it only took him to suggest it for the idea to keep coming back to my head, and God kept nudging me. Eventually I decided I really wanted to do that,” Deacon Darell said.

The ability to share at the altar during the Mass has deepened the natural relationship of father and son and given Deacon Darell and Father John new opportunities to grow closer to God. 

One of the most meaningful times came when Deacon Darell had a massive stroke in 2018. While he was in the hospital, Father John was able to visit and celebrate Mass at his bed and pray the rosary with him every day, as he had come back from Rome and was working on his dissertation.

“It was probably the most privileged and intimate time I’ve ever had with my father,” Father John said. “It was an amazing gift that really changed our relationship.”

“I feel like that’s a huge reason why I healed and why I am here today,” Deacon Darell added.

“It’s a real gift to have my dad as a deacon and a brother. It’s a tremendous honor. It’s one of the great joys of my life.” Father John concluded. “That’s really what has bonded our relationship together: the sheer desire to serve Jesus, especially in holy orders.”