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When Heaven prays back

By the time you read this, All Saints Day will have come and gone. But, just to extend the feast a few more days, I want to share the story of something that happened to me recently — something that helped give me a fuller understand of what we’re celebrating, and what we as Catholics believe about the Communion of Saints.

A few weeks ago, I was working on a talk that I was scheduled to give the following week at a women’s conference in Arlington, Virginia. I remembered a quote from Fr. Michael Scanlan that I wanted to incorporate into my remarks. Fr. Mike, who passed away earlier this year, was the President of Franciscan University of Steubenville,. He was also a good friend to me and to my ministry. I pulled my copy of his (excellent) autobiography, Let the Fire Fall, from the bookshelf, and began thumbing through it, looking for the quote. As I read, it occurred to me that, since Fr. Mike’s passing, I had never asked him to pray for me. Of course I have prayed regularly for the repose of his soul. But, as holy a man as Fr. Mike was, I figured it might be a good idea to add a request for his intercession.

So I simply said, “Fr. Mike, please pray for me.” And, because he is not (yet) a canonized saint, I added “May his soul, and the souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God rest in peace. Amen.”

And then I went back to work.

The next week, I gave the talk. I didn’t use the Fr. Mike quote, or talk about him at all, because I had a lot more material than time. But it was a successful talk nonetheless.

After it was over, I returned to my table. There, I had a brief conversation with a religious sister who was attending the conference. The conversation ended when we were interrupted by others. A few minutes later, she got up and walked around the table to me. She said somewhat hesitantly, “I hate to bother you, and I’m not stalking you or anything. But I was praying for you during your talk. And I felt the Lord asking me to deliver a message to you. Here it is.” She handed me her business card, on the back of which she had written the message. It said:

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I immediately burst into tears. I hadn’t mentioned Fr. Mike to her. Nor Steubenville. Nor anything else related. I had given no further thought to my brief prayer since I made it. And I certainly hadn’t told anyone about it.

What an incredible gift! Like many people, I frequently struggle with the thought that my prayers aren’t heard; that in order to be effective I need to say them a special way, or drag them out for a prolonged period of time, or say them with an air of piety that I can never get right.

But, sitting here at my desk, almost as an aside, I asked for his prayers. And the Lord let me know know that my prayer was heard, and that I indeed have at least one friend praying for me in the very presence of God.

I tend to keep the personal aspects of my life personal. But I also felt early on that this particular favor was intended not just for me. It seemed clear that God wanted others to know that their prayers are being heard. And that the Communion of Saints is real, that we are indeed surrounded by a “great cloud of witnesses” who intercede for us.

Your prayers — even the brief ones — are heard by the God who loves you. And your requests for prayers are heard by the saints in Heaven, who do intercede for you.

Notice that the message said that Fr. Mike is praying for me. It didn’t say that Fr. Mike is fixing things for me, or making my life better. This is a common misconception — that we Catholics believe that the saints are some kind of minor deities who scurry around organizing our lives and making good things happen.

This is not what we believe. The saints aren’t gods. They’re people like us. But they’re people who have run the race successfully, and now enjoy the Beatific Vision. And they pray. And their prayers, being the prayers of pure, sanctified souls, are powerful before God.

Ask them to pray for you.

Mary Beth Bonacci
Mary Beth Bonacci
Mary Beth Bonacci has been giving talks on love and relationships across the United States and internationally for . . .well . . . her entire adult life. She was among the first Catholic speakers to introduce audiences to St. John Paul II’s beautiful Theology of the Body. She is the founder of Real Love, Inc., an organization dedicated to promoting respect for God’s gift of human sexuality. Her book Real Love, based on the Theology of the Body, has been translated into ten languages. She is also the author of We’re on a Mission from God, writes a monthly column for Catholic newspapers and contributes regularly to the Catholic Match Institute blog.

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