Christ: The answer to the dictatorship of relativism

Last week I was talking with a friend about abortion.  My friend, who is not Catholic, has pro-abortion political positions, and I pointed out to him the simple, biological fact that at conception, a new organism, with unique DNA is created.

“Science,” I pointed out “proves that life begins at conception.  Your life and mine began at the moment of conception, and if anything disrupted it we would not be here.”

My friend told me that what I had pointed out was “my truth,” but that it was not “true for everyone.”

I have been pondering the idea that a biological fact could be true for me, and untrue for others.  It simply makes no sense.  It is not reasonable.

Truth is a simple thing.  Something is true, or it is not.  Things cannot be true and untrue, or true for some, but not for others.  No matter where one goes on this planet, the planet will always be round, and it will always have gravity.  Gravity is true for you, and for me, because it is true.

Mathematics proves my point:  2+2 always equals 4.  It would be unreasonable to suggest that for some people, 2+2=5.  Imagine being at a cash register and receiving the wrong change, pointing this out to the cashier, who responds: “My truth tells me I gave you the right change.”

The idea that truth is an objective measure of a thing is quickly becoming lost in our culture, and that is disturbing.  To live without ever believing that we can know the truth is to live without hope.  Knowing what is true, and seeking it, is the source of all hope.

The same is true of morality.  If an action is wrong, like abortion, it is always wrong.  In contemporary culture, many people believe that morality is determined by shifting social norms, or simply by what feels right at each moment.  The “truth” for the South African Broederbond (Brotherhood) justified apartheid.  The “truth” for the Communists justified the gulags.  And the “truth” for the Al Qaeda terrorist cells justified the attacks on our country 11 years ago.

Sadly, we live in an age where the idea of moral truth is eroding.  What our forefathers called “self-evident truths” are denied by many in our society, most especially the right to life and dignity of the human being.  But goodness is rooted in reality, and can be known by our reason.

Those who profess the universality of truth, and the universality of morality, are labeled fundamentalists, intolerant or ignorant.  In 2005, Pope Benedict XVI said that in contemporary culture man is expected to simply be “tossed here and there, carried about by every wind of doctrine.”  The uncertainty, ambiguity and confusion caused by this kind of culture is what Pope Benedict calls the “dictatorship of relativism.”

When our minds and hearts are constrained—unable to really believe in anything, to find truth in anything, we do live under a dictatorship.  When it is impossible to judge our own conduct or that of another, we live without any freedom.  When we cannot know what is true, good or beautiful, and aspire to it, we live in a kind of slavery.

We who know Jesus Christ know truth.  Jesus Christ himself is the way, the truth and the life—he frees us from the slavery of uncertain confusion.  Moral law, and absolute certainty, set us on a path to the pursuit of goodness—and to freedom, which comes in a life lived according to truth.  Jesus Christ sets us free from the relativism of the world.   He renews our minds.

Our task is to share our freedom with captives.

The effects of relativism are seen in our treatment of the unborn, the poor and the immigrant.  They are seen in our crumbling families, and in our despairing culture.  The effects of relativism are everywhere.  Unfortunately, those held captive by relativism, like my friend, are rarely convinced by the force of argument.  Argument depends on a belief in absolutes and the use of reason, which relativism has discarded.

If we wish to see the world lived according to truth, we must introduce the world to the source of all truth—to Jesus Christ himself.  He is the heart of the new evangelization!   Let us proclaim to the world the source of truth, and the source of our hope.

COMING UP: Father and son, deacon and priest: Deacon dads and priest sons share special bond as both serve God’s people

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The bond between a father and son is one of God’s greatest designs; however, when father and son are both called to serve the Church as deacon and priest, that bond takes on a whole new meaning. Just ask these two dads and their sons, all of whom answered the call to serve the people of God at the altar.

Deacon Michael Magee serves at Our Lady of Loreto Parish in Foxfield, while his son Father Matthew Magee has worked as the priest secretary to Archbishop Samuel J. Aquila for the past several years and will soon be moved to a new assignment as parochial vicar at St. Thomas Aquinas Parish in Boulder. Deacon Darrell Nepil serves at Our Lady of Lourdes Parish in Denver, and his son, Father John Nepil, served at several parishes within the archdiocese before his current assignment as a professor at St. John Vianney Theological Seminary.

However different their journeys may have been, all four have something in common; mainly, that far from seeing their vocations as a reward from God, they have received them as an uncommon gift of grace that has blessed their families and individual relationships with each other abundantly, knowing that God acts in different ways to help us all get to Heaven.

Interwoven journeys

Deacon Michael Magee was ordained in May 2009, at the end of Father Matt’s first year of seminary. Little did they know that God would use both of their callings to encourage each other along the journey.

Deacon Michael’s journey began when a man from his parish was ordained a deacon.

“I simply felt like God was calling me to do something more than I was doing at the present time,” he said. “I had been volunteering for a number of different things and was involved in some ministry activities and in the Knights of Columbus. And I thought the idea of being a deacon would be simply another activity for which I could volunteer.”

He didn’t know what it entailed at the time. In fact, he believed it was something a man could simply sign up for. To his surprise, the diaconate was more serious – and it required five years of formation and discernment. Yet he was so drawn to it, that he decided to do it anyway. But as he learned more about the nature of the diaconate during his formation, he became more nervous and unsure about whether God was really calling him to that vocation. 

While his doubts remained all the way up to his ordination, Deacon Michael was faithful to his studies, trusting that God would lead him in the right path. 

And God did — through the calling of his own son to the priesthood.

Deacon Michael didn’t realize that his son Matthew had paid close attention to his father’s faith journey and had found in it a light that gave him courage to discern the priesthood.

Father Matthew Magee (left) and his dad, Deacon Michael Magee (right), were both encouraging to one another as they each pursued their respective vocations. (Photo by Daniel Petty/Denver Catholic)

“Seeing my dad, as a father, growing in his relationship with the Lord was really influential for me on my own desire to follow Christ,” said Father Matt. “Looking at his courage to discern his own vocation and follow God’s plan in his life gave me the strength and courage to be open to the same thing in my life… He played a very important role, whether he knew it or not at the time, and whether I knew it or not at the time.”

On the other hand, Father Matt didn’t know that his dad was in turn encouraged by his own response to God’s calling. 

“As I went through all those doubts, I watched Matthew’s journey in seminary and listened to how he was dealing with that in his life. And, as he just articulated very well, I also saw those same qualities in him,” Deacon Michael said. “Seeing a young man in his 20s willing to consider following God for the rest of his life also gave me the courage to continue on in my own journey, to see it through.”

God’s way of uplifting them in their vocations through each other’s journey is something they are very grateful for. 

This unusual grace impacted Father Matt during his first Mass, when his dad, as deacon, approached him before the Gospel reading and asked for the traditional blessing by calling him “father.”

“It was a really special moment for me. He’s certainly my biological father and raised me. But then there’s something different when we’re at the altar in a clerical capacity — there’s a strange reversal of roles when we’re giving spiritual nourishment to the people — a father asks the new father for the blessing,” he said.

In both of their vocations, Deacon Michael and Father Matt see God’s Providence and the unique plan he has for all of us.

“We all have a vocation, even if it’s something we may not expect,” Deacon Michael concluded. “You may feel anxiety or worry about what it’s going to look like, but trust in God. He will take care of things as he always does.”

A bribe for Heaven

For Deacon Darell and Father John Nepil, the journey was different, but not any less providential.

While he grew up Catholic, Father John wasn’t interested in setting foot on any Church activity during his teenage years. His saving grace was perhaps what many parents have to do to get their teenagers to Church: bribe them.

“His mom and I basically bribed him to go to the Steubenville of the Rockies Conference,” Deacon Darell said with a laugh. “He didn’t want to go, but we’d heard so many good things about it, that we said, ‘We’re going to make this happen, whatever it takes.’”

So the Nepils came up with a creative idea.

“He owed me some money for a uniform that he had needed for a job in the summer. So, I said, ‘Listen, if you go to the Steubenville of the Rockies Conference, I’ll forgive your debt. And he did, he and his brother went. And John especially came back a different boy. He literally was converted with a lightning bolt at that retreat.”

To this day, Father John marks his conversion to Christ from the summer before his senior year in high school when he attended that conference. 

As it happens with stories worth telling, the details of how much money he owed his father have varied over the years, and it’s a matter of debate among them, but Father John remembers it was close to $500.

“That’s subject to each one,” Father John said laughingly. “But what matters is that they offered to forgive my debt if I went to this retreat – it was money well spent.”

Besides this important event, Father John said that his dad influenced him in many ways by the simple fact of who he was as a father.

“My dad’s faith and moral character were a rock for me during some difficult teenage years,” he said. “He’s a great example of a man who was always faithful and lived a really outstanding moral life, but then as he deepened in love with Christ, he decided to give of himself in a more profound service.”

Father John Nepil (left) and Deacon Darrell Nepil (right) both had rather roundabout ways to their respective vocations, but they both say serving God’s people together as brothers in Holy Orders is a great joy. (Photo provided)

Besides his desire to serve and follow God, the seed that would eventually lead Deacon Darell to the diaconate was planted by a coworker, who would also take holy orders: Deacon Joe Donohoe.

“One day he said to me, ‘You should be a deacon.’ And, of course, I laughed at him and said, ‘I don’t have time for that. My life is too busy.’ But it only took him to suggest it for the idea to keep coming back to my head, and God kept nudging me. Eventually I decided I really wanted to do that,” Deacon Darell said.

The ability to share at the altar during the Mass has deepened the natural relationship of father and son and given Deacon Darell and Father John new opportunities to grow closer to God. 

One of the most meaningful times came when Deacon Darell had a massive stroke in 2018. While he was in the hospital, Father John was able to visit and celebrate Mass at his bed and pray the rosary with him every day, as he had come back from Rome and was working on his dissertation.

“It was probably the most privileged and intimate time I’ve ever had with my father,” Father John said. “It was an amazing gift that really changed our relationship.”

“I feel like that’s a huge reason why I healed and why I am here today,” Deacon Darell added.

“It’s a real gift to have my dad as a deacon and a brother. It’s a tremendous honor. It’s one of the great joys of my life.” Father John concluded. “That’s really what has bonded our relationship together: the sheer desire to serve Jesus, especially in holy orders.”