I read recently about a “remote control contraceptive chip” and wondered: where does it go after that, when is enough enough?
Sex is a beautiful, amazing thing. And the Catholic Church is an amazing proponent of it, within marriage, when it’s honored for what it is, which is a beautiful act of creation given to us by Jesus Christ and God our Father.
Charity begins when we stop objectifying our spouses. It begins when we stop forcing one another to contracept. It’s in not sleeping with your spouse-to-be. This has to go both ways. Men and women have to take responsibility.
That’s where charity begins. When we do that, then we will start to be charitable in a way that matters with the people we love the most. And when you’re charitable with the people you love the most, guess what happens? Then you’re charitable to other people, whom you may not love quite as much or know quite as much. But then you’ll start to understand charity and then you’ll start to share it.
All these things are being ripped away from us in society as the family breaks down before our eyes, in large part because of the contraceptive, narcissistic, commercialization of sex.
And who pays the price? Women in poverty.
In remarks to the Knights of Columbus, to young people at Theology on Tap and on EWTN, I’ve discussed aspects of this sad scenario. First we ask women to contracept. If that contraception fails, we ask them to abort. And if they decide not to abort, then what happens? At Catholic Charities, we have a bird’s eye view of this. They may be ostracized and suffer domestic abuse from their partners, who don’t want them to keep the child. If they live with their parents, who don’t want them to keep the child, then they’re kicked out of the house, which leaves them homeless.
So now they’re pregnant and they’re homeless and they have no one who loves them to care for them.
That is a human tragedy. And it won’t be solved by remote control.
This column was adapted from Smith’s recent appearance at Theology on Tap. See the video at www.ccdenver.org/calltocharity. Larry Smith is the president and CEO of Catholic Charities of the Denver Archdiocese. Visit online here or call 303-742-0828 to learn more, volunteer or make a donation.