The adventure and privilege of the priesthood

Almost 37 years ago, I was ordained a priest of Jesus Christ in Denver’s Cathedral Basilica of the Immaculate Conception. I promised obedience to my bishop and his successors. I lay on the floor, invoking the intercession of the saints in heaven. My hands were anointed with oil. And, when the bishop placed his hands upon my head and prayed the prayer of ordination, I became a priest, forever.

The priesthood has been a gift beyond my imagination.

The priest is called to pour out his life for the people of God—to give himself to those the Lord loves with unencumbered abandon. To many, this call seems too difficult, too lonely or too demanding.  But in my 37 years as a priest, I have found that while the call is challenging, it is a call made easy, joyful and fulfilling, by the love of God the Father and the friendship of Jesus Christ.

The priesthood, in my own life, has been the adventure of learning to die to myself—to love as God loves for the sake of the kingdom of God. I have the privilege of forgiving sins in the name of the Lord. I have the privilege of praying over bread and wine, and watching as the Holy Spirit and the words of Jesus transform them into the body and blood of Christ. The priesthood is an adventure, a privilege, and like all the sacraments a pure gift.

On Saturday, I ordained seven men to the priesthood in the Cathedral Basilica of the Immaculate Conception. My heart filled with joy for these new priests. My memory returned to June 5, 1976, the eve of Pentecost, and the day of my own ordination. I prayed that these seven men would experience the same joy that I have had. I prayed that they would know the love of the Father and the friendship of Christ. I prayed that they would pour out their lives in love, constantly in-filled by the Holy Spirit, living in the communion of love of the Trinity.

The priesthood seems foreign to our postmodern world. In a culture obsessed with sex, celibacy seems strange. In a culture of “independence,” obedience seems a burden. And in a self-centered culture, in which self-fulfillment is deified and worshipped, a life of radical charity seems impossible and naïve.

The priest is a sign of contradiction, a living witness to the love of Christ himself. The priest is called to follow in the footsteps of Jesus, and to make his life a total self-gift to Christ and the Church.

At the heart of the priesthood is the Eucharist, wherein the priest stands in the person of Christ, the Head, Shepherd and Spouse of the Church. The Eucharist becomes the prayer of the priest in which he surrenders himself to Christ, and utters with him, “This is my body given for you. …This is my blood poured out for you.”

I pray I will ordain many more men in the Cathedral Basilica.

At Saturday’s ordination, we read from Luke, Chapter 10. Christ sends out missionaries to proclaim the Gospel. “The harvest is abundant,” he says, “but the laborers are few, so ask the master of the harvest to send out laborers for his harvest.”

We are blessed in the archdiocese with many men who have said yes to the call of priesthood.  But the harvest is ever abundant. I pray that young men across the archdiocese will consider meeting with me to discuss the call to the priesthood.

I pray, too, that families will support vocations to the priesthood. If you are a mother or father encouraging your son to become a priest, thank you! This weekend, I heard a mother tell her son: “Today our friend became a priest. Imagine how great that would be for you.” That word of simple encouragement will grow in the heart of her son. His eyes will be open to the possibility of the priesthood, and then he will be able to discern if the Father calls him to be a priest.

I pray that families will invite priests into their homes and into their lives. The lay families I know well have been a source of great consolation for me. Their children have become my sons and daughters, my nieces and nephews, my grandchildren. They have become my brothers and sisters, and have helped me  to live my vocation fruitfully. Thank you for inviting the priests of our diocese into your homes. Thank you for allowing them to experience the joy of your family.

I pray that my brother priests, too, and deacons, will encourage men to consider whether God is calling them. This weekend I ordained a man who told me, simply, “I became a priest because my pastor invited me.” What a legacy an invitation can become.

Finally, dear brothers and sisters, I pray that all of us—priests, deacons, religious or laity—will join together to love as God loves: to be signs of contradiction in our world and to pour out our lives, as Christ has done for us. Let us continue to heed the words of Jesus through prayer to the Father, “…ask the master of the harvest to send out laborers for his harvest!”

COMING UP: Father and son, deacon and priest: Deacon dads and priest sons share special bond as both serve God’s people

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The bond between a father and son is one of God’s greatest designs; however, when father and son are both called to serve the Church as deacon and priest, that bond takes on a whole new meaning. Just ask these two dads and their sons, all of whom answered the call to serve the people of God at the altar.

Deacon Michael Magee serves at Our Lady of Loreto Parish in Foxfield, while his son Father Matthew Magee has worked as the priest secretary to Archbishop Samuel J. Aquila for the past several years and will soon be moved to a new assignment as parochial vicar at St. Thomas Aquinas Parish in Boulder. Deacon Darrell Nepil serves at Our Lady of Lourdes Parish in Denver, and his son, Father John Nepil, served at several parishes within the archdiocese before his current assignment as a professor at St. John Vianney Theological Seminary.

However different their journeys may have been, all four have something in common; mainly, that far from seeing their vocations as a reward from God, they have received them as an uncommon gift of grace that has blessed their families and individual relationships with each other abundantly, knowing that God acts in different ways to help us all get to Heaven.

Interwoven journeys

Deacon Michael Magee was ordained in May 2009, at the end of Father Matt’s first year of seminary. Little did they know that God would use both of their callings to encourage each other along the journey.

Deacon Michael’s journey began when a man from his parish was ordained a deacon.

“I simply felt like God was calling me to do something more than I was doing at the present time,” he said. “I had been volunteering for a number of different things and was involved in some ministry activities and in the Knights of Columbus. And I thought the idea of being a deacon would be simply another activity for which I could volunteer.”

He didn’t know what it entailed at the time. In fact, he believed it was something a man could simply sign up for. To his surprise, the diaconate was more serious – and it required five years of formation and discernment. Yet he was so drawn to it, that he decided to do it anyway. But as he learned more about the nature of the diaconate during his formation, he became more nervous and unsure about whether God was really calling him to that vocation. 

While his doubts remained all the way up to his ordination, Deacon Michael was faithful to his studies, trusting that God would lead him in the right path. 

And God did — through the calling of his own son to the priesthood.

Deacon Michael didn’t realize that his son Matthew had paid close attention to his father’s faith journey and had found in it a light that gave him courage to discern the priesthood.

Father Matthew Magee (left) and his dad, Deacon Michael Magee (right), were both encouraging to one another as they each pursued their respective vocations. (Photo by Daniel Petty/Denver Catholic)

“Seeing my dad, as a father, growing in his relationship with the Lord was really influential for me on my own desire to follow Christ,” said Father Matt. “Looking at his courage to discern his own vocation and follow God’s plan in his life gave me the strength and courage to be open to the same thing in my life… He played a very important role, whether he knew it or not at the time, and whether I knew it or not at the time.”

On the other hand, Father Matt didn’t know that his dad was in turn encouraged by his own response to God’s calling. 

“As I went through all those doubts, I watched Matthew’s journey in seminary and listened to how he was dealing with that in his life. And, as he just articulated very well, I also saw those same qualities in him,” Deacon Michael said. “Seeing a young man in his 20s willing to consider following God for the rest of his life also gave me the courage to continue on in my own journey, to see it through.”

God’s way of uplifting them in their vocations through each other’s journey is something they are very grateful for. 

This unusual grace impacted Father Matt during his first Mass, when his dad, as deacon, approached him before the Gospel reading and asked for the traditional blessing by calling him “father.”

“It was a really special moment for me. He’s certainly my biological father and raised me. But then there’s something different when we’re at the altar in a clerical capacity — there’s a strange reversal of roles when we’re giving spiritual nourishment to the people — a father asks the new father for the blessing,” he said.

In both of their vocations, Deacon Michael and Father Matt see God’s Providence and the unique plan he has for all of us.

“We all have a vocation, even if it’s something we may not expect,” Deacon Michael concluded. “You may feel anxiety or worry about what it’s going to look like, but trust in God. He will take care of things as he always does.”

A bribe for Heaven

For Deacon Darell and Father John Nepil, the journey was different, but not any less providential.

While he grew up Catholic, Father John wasn’t interested in setting foot on any Church activity during his teenage years. His saving grace was perhaps what many parents have to do to get their teenagers to Church: bribe them.

“His mom and I basically bribed him to go to the Steubenville of the Rockies Conference,” Deacon Darell said with a laugh. “He didn’t want to go, but we’d heard so many good things about it, that we said, ‘We’re going to make this happen, whatever it takes.’”

So the Nepils came up with a creative idea.

“He owed me some money for a uniform that he had needed for a job in the summer. So, I said, ‘Listen, if you go to the Steubenville of the Rockies Conference, I’ll forgive your debt. And he did, he and his brother went. And John especially came back a different boy. He literally was converted with a lightning bolt at that retreat.”

To this day, Father John marks his conversion to Christ from the summer before his senior year in high school when he attended that conference. 

As it happens with stories worth telling, the details of how much money he owed his father have varied over the years, and it’s a matter of debate among them, but Father John remembers it was close to $500.

“That’s subject to each one,” Father John said laughingly. “But what matters is that they offered to forgive my debt if I went to this retreat – it was money well spent.”

Besides this important event, Father John said that his dad influenced him in many ways by the simple fact of who he was as a father.

“My dad’s faith and moral character were a rock for me during some difficult teenage years,” he said. “He’s a great example of a man who was always faithful and lived a really outstanding moral life, but then as he deepened in love with Christ, he decided to give of himself in a more profound service.”

Father John Nepil (left) and Deacon Darrell Nepil (right) both had rather roundabout ways to their respective vocations, but they both say serving God’s people together as brothers in Holy Orders is a great joy. (Photo provided)

Besides his desire to serve and follow God, the seed that would eventually lead Deacon Darell to the diaconate was planted by a coworker, who would also take holy orders: Deacon Joe Donohoe.

“One day he said to me, ‘You should be a deacon.’ And, of course, I laughed at him and said, ‘I don’t have time for that. My life is too busy.’ But it only took him to suggest it for the idea to keep coming back to my head, and God kept nudging me. Eventually I decided I really wanted to do that,” Deacon Darell said.

The ability to share at the altar during the Mass has deepened the natural relationship of father and son and given Deacon Darell and Father John new opportunities to grow closer to God. 

One of the most meaningful times came when Deacon Darell had a massive stroke in 2018. While he was in the hospital, Father John was able to visit and celebrate Mass at his bed and pray the rosary with him every day, as he had come back from Rome and was working on his dissertation.

“It was probably the most privileged and intimate time I’ve ever had with my father,” Father John said. “It was an amazing gift that really changed our relationship.”

“I feel like that’s a huge reason why I healed and why I am here today,” Deacon Darell added.

“It’s a real gift to have my dad as a deacon and a brother. It’s a tremendous honor. It’s one of the great joys of my life.” Father John concluded. “That’s really what has bonded our relationship together: the sheer desire to serve Jesus, especially in holy orders.”