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Therese Bussen

Whether you’ve been practicing Natural Family Planning for years or are brand new to the idea of “going natural,” these books and resources are a good place to learn about all things NFP.

“Family Foundations” magazine by Couple to Couple League
It’s the best magazine out there on all things related to NFP.  Every couple practicing NFP should subscribe to this magazine.  You will be encouraged and helped by it no matter what method you practice.

“Sex au Natural: What it is and Why it is Good for Your Marriage” by Patrick Coffin
This book covers such topics as – where exactly the Bible teaches against birth control, the differences between contraception and natural family planning, how the dogma of the Blessed Trinity implicitly condemns birth control, and that every single Protestant denomination rejected birth control until 1930.

 “Men, Women and the Mystery of Love: Practical Insights from John Paul II’s Love and Responsibility” by Edward Sri
Edward Sri provides practical information on such topics as –  the definition of authentic love, the meaning of friendship, the problem of pornography, and achieving greater intimacy in marriage.

“The Sinner’s Guide to Natural Family Planning” by Simcha Fisher
“Faithful, funny, and honest. Simcha addresses the obstacles couples face in living out the blessings and challenges of natural family planning.  Readers will appreciate her frank and heartfelt take on this sensitive subject.” – Dr. Gregory Popcak

“Good News about Sex & Marriage: Answers to Your Honest Questions about Catholic Teaching” by Christopher West
This book answers the questions about human sexuality and marriage and provides thoughtful responses about Catholic Church teaching in a fresh, thoroughly appealing, and convincing manner.

COMING UP: Healing hatred and anger after Charlottesville

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The confrontation in Charlottesville, Virginia, and the nationwide reaction to it are clear signs of the tensions simmering just below the surface of our society. But we know as people of faith that these wounds can be healed if we follow Christ’s example, rather than the path of revenge.

It was with a heavy heart that I learned about the Aug. 12 clashes between white supremacists and counter protesters in Charlottesville that resulted in the injury of around 34 people and the death of Heather Heyer. It was an “eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth” melee.

These events remind me of Pope Francis’ 2017 World Day of Peace message, in which he pointed out that “Jesus himself lived in violent times. Yet he taught that the true battlefield, where violence and peace meet, is the human heart: for ‘it is from within, from the human heart, that evil intentions come’ (Mk. 7:21).”

What we witnessed in Charlottesville was an outward expression of hundreds of hearts, and as a shepherd of souls, I cannot stand by silently while people allow hatred toward others rule their hearts. Particularly reprehensible were the derogatory words the neo-Nazis and their white supremacist allies shouted toward African Americans, Jews and Latinos. This is not how God sees his children!

Every human being is bestowed from the moment of conception with the dignity of being made in the image and likeness of God, and we are all loved by him, even amid our sin and brokenness. Satan seeks every opportunity to twist these fundamental truths in the hearts of human beings and we can see the devastation it brings throughout history.

It can be tempting to respond to these attacks on our fellow man with violence, just as the members of the Anti-fascist movement (known as “Antifa”) did in Charlottesville. But this is not what Christ taught, since it allows hatred to gain a foothold through a different avenue. It is worth repeating: the human heart is the true battlefield.

Jesus’ response to violence and persecution stands in contrast with the way of hatred and anger. Instead, he taught his disciples to love their enemies (Mt. 5:44) and to turn the other cheek (Mt. 5:39). Christ’s radical answer is only possible because God unconditionally loves every person and is ready to forgive us when we repent. God’s love is the only thing that can cut through the hatred that is bringing people to blows, heal the human heart and form it after his own. As people of faith, we are called to bring the truth of love to these festering wounds so that hearts may be healed by Christ.

Joseph Pearce, the Catholic convert and former white supremacist, is a perfect example of this. In a recent article for the National Catholic Register, he recalls how it was his encounter with the objective truths of the faith that demolished his race-centered identity and seeing his enemies love him when he confronted them with hatred that changed his heart. We must pray for the grace to love as Jesus loves, to love as the Father loves.

“The way out of this deadly spiral,” Pearce says, “is to go beyond the love of neighbor, as necessary as that is, and to begin to love our enemies. This is not simply good for us, freeing us from the bondage of hatred; it is good for our enemies also.”

May all of us follow the great example of Mark Heyer, the father of the woman who was killed after the white supremacist rally. His daughter’s death, Heyer told USA Today, made him think “about what the Lord said on the cross, ‘Forgive them. They don’t know what they’re doing.’”

Jesus desires that every person have a heart that is whole and free from hatred, anger and pride. He desires to form our hearts, and that only comes about when we are receptive to his unconditional love, for only in receiving his unconditional love will we be able to give it to others. I pray that all the faithful will be instruments of healing for our country by bringing Christ’s forgiveness to their neighbors and their enemies.